One of my pet peeves is how the feminist movement has degenerated the role of men in our society. Don’t get me wrong I totally think that some things in the movement were necessary, but now we’ve gone to far. First I want to specifically address the roles of dads in our society. Lets look at the center of most families social life TV-god bringer-of-all-knowledge (one of my favorite pass times as well, my professor even said that we should all watch television more often, but that’s not really the point). lets talk about some specific examples, we’ll start with “Everybody loves Raymond”
Ray (played by Ray Ramano) is the goofy father that is always getting in trouble. and at the end of the day his wife (Played by Patricia Heaton) comes along to fix everything, after she has given him a proper scolding and making sure that he knows how disappointed she was with him.
As displayed in the following video
There are several other shows that display this I just happen to be watching this show last night. Now I will loop this back to the feminism movement and make that part make sense.
Way back in when before the women’s rights movement began in 1848, men and women had their specific rolls and duties in American society. Men knew how to be men and women knew how to be women. This all changed when the feminists moved in. Feminism made women “stronger.” I found an interesting quote from by an unknown author “Never let the hand you hold, hold you down.” Reading this I tried to figure out exactly what she meant.
As I understand it, this person is referring to husbands “holding down” their wives down. I am right now wracking my brain for men I know that have ever tried to hold their wives back, starting with my grandma and grandpa who were married in the 50′s. Grandma was a stay-at-home mother that tended to their 8 children as was the custom back then. but she also had a ton of skills, she owned and managed most of the family businesses that my grandpa opened.
As I see it and from different sentiments given by self-proclaimed feminists, most of what the feminist movement did was give women a new way to look at their bodies. I found this horrifying quote by Susan B Anthony from her publication “The Revolution” Speaking about Abortion. “Guilty? Yes. No matter what the motive, love of ease, or a desire to save from suffering the unborn innocent, the woman is awfully guilty who commits the deed. It will burden her conscience in life, it will burden her soul in death; But oh, thrice guilty is he who drove her to the desperation which impelled her to the crime!”
As I understand it, she is saying that it is the man’s fault that women get abortions? Since when? Last time I checked it takes two to “tango.” (Not including rape, that is a different discussion all together.) If a man and woman decide to have sex that results in a child then they should take responsibility for the child. But not only men (Notice I said ‘only’ because they deserve HALF the blame) are responsible for making that child.
I believe that the likely hood of men that will stick around to take care of their unintended child drastically went down when abortion became more widely accepted, (remember this is my opinion and I have no ‘facts’ to back it up) because he didn’t “Have to.” By making this terrible deed acceptable it has given men a way out with no responsibility at all.
I am now going to start my own feminist group and our motto would be. “We have the power to hold men to a higher standard so that we are not hurt, we will take responsibility for all of our actions and accept ALL of the consequences. We will respect our bodies and also hold ourselves to a higher standard so that we can have a better life. And when the time comes we will start our families and be EQUAL partners with our husbands spreading the blame for all hurt EQUALLY between BOTH of us.”
Maybe that is a little much but I do think that as women we have a duty to help the men in our society. Our husbands, boyfriends, brothers, friends, fathers all need our help. God put man on the earth, then he gave man a gift, a woman to be a partner to him and to help him make good decisions. (P.S just because I said Eve was a gift I don’t mean that she was the property of Adam)
My last statement “Men are people too!”
This is Jane, Jumping off her soap box, and signing off.